Chapter 256 - 254: Missing the Point

Chapter 256: Chapter 254: Missing the Point

"Brother Zhang, are you saying he’s afraid of women who make false accusations?"

"I’m not that kind of person."

"That’s not important. Don’t get hung up on it." Zhang Zhe said, waving his hand dismissively. "The focus should be on you. This guy you’re seeing, do you actually think he’s suitable marriage material?"

"From what I’ve seen so far, he seems like a really good match."

"When you were with your ex, was there physical contact?"

"Well... of course."

"So when it comes to this guy, why aren’t you the one making a move?" Zhang Zhe asked, spreading his hands.

"You shared your relationship history with him. You let him know you’re no chaste maiden. But when it’s his turn, you’re not even willing to take the initiative to hold his hand."

"Anyone in his shoes would think you’re just not that into him."

"So what else is he supposed to do but run?"

[Actually, she’s still not that into him.]

[The guy just checks her boxes, but he hasn’t reached the point where she’d make a move.]

[To put it bluntly, she wants the guy to worship the ground she walks on, with her calling all the shots.]

[The guy’s not an idiot. You’ve been with a bad boy, but you’re still acting all prim and proper in front of him.]

"But I’m the one who starts conversations, and his responses are always lukewarm!"

"Because by that point, he’d already given up on you."

"He’s already given up, but he still replies to your messages. That’s very polite. Normally, people would just block you." Zhang Zhe patiently explained, "You don’t think he’s playing hard to get, do you?"

"A 33-year-old guy in finance making 500k a year—where is he going to find the time and energy to play a long game with a 30-year-old bank teller?"

"What, is he supposed to quit his job and spend all day figuring out how to win you over?"

"That’s not what I meant..." The woman sounded aggrieved. "He’s the one not making a move, so why am I the one getting blamed for it?"

"Because you’re the one who’s hung up on it."

"I’m not."

"Hmm?" Zhang Zhe grunted skeptically.

’What a terrible lie.’

’She’s the one who can’t figure it out, running around in circles with anxiety.’

"I’m not hung up on it," the woman retorted. "I just want to know why. Why did everything suddenly change?"

"I just can’t wrap my head around it..."

"Getting hung up on this is pointless." Zhang Zhe shook his head.

"Sis, you’re focusing on the wrong thing. Even if I told you right now that he’s ignoring you because he’s busy with work, or because he’s seeing someone else, or because he’s some kind of psycho..."

"What good would that do?"

"He spent two months getting to know you, you met seven times, and then he decided to stop seeing you. He’s clearly thought it all through and concluded that you two just aren’t a good fit."

[Unbelievable. He asked her out several times and got nothing. She’s 30 and still acting like she’s some pure, untouched maiden.]

[TL;DR: "I was wild with my ex, but that doesn’t mean I’m not a traditional girl. You have to court me slowly and worship me."]

[That’s just how girls who are slow to warm up are.]

[You can tell this girl is desperate to "go straight" and settle down.]

[This girl’s just into bad boys. The kind that get handsy on the second date—that’s what she actually likes.]

"Do I have to be the one to make a move?" the woman asked with a long sigh. "But we’re talking about marriage here. If I’m the one who takes the initiative, what about my standing in the family later on..."

"Stop, stop, stop." Zhang Zhe couldn’t take it anymore.

"Don’t overthink it. I’m just going to tell you straight: that guy has already filtered you out. In his view, you’re not wife material."

"If you’re curious about the reason, just go ask him yourself."

"If you’re too embarrassed to ask, have your parents ask."

"And if you won’t do any of that, then just live with it."

Saying it all in one go felt pretty damn good.

’Online consultations really are the best. You can just say whatever’s on your mind.’

Clearly, the woman on the call hadn’t expected Zhang Zhe to be so direct. She was silent for a good while before replying, "Okay, thank you, Brother Zhang."

"I get it now."

"Next time I meet someone suitable, I’ll take the initiative."

"So with this current guy... I’ve lost my chance, right?"

"There you go, asking me again," Zhang Zhe said, his expression exasperated. "Whether you have a chance is something you need to ask him directly."

[Something’s wrong with this woman’s head.]

[Didn’t she get her bachelor’s and master’s degrees abroad? Westerners are super direct, how did she not pick that up?]

[I don’t get why you’d play all these games with someone from a blind date. It’s not like you’re actually dating yet.]

[It took him two months to screen her out? If it were me, she’d have been out in three days.]

’Honestly, if I were to really analyze it, the girl could still salvage this. All she’d have to do is take the initiative and ask him out one more time.’

’The guy knew she’d dated a bad boy and studied abroad, yet he stuck around for so long. That meant she must have met a lot of his requirements for a wife.’

’Her looks, at least, must not have been an issue.’

’If she were to make a move now, there was a high probability he’d be wrapped around her finger.’

’But that was just a probability.’

’Unless he was ninety percent certain, Zhang Zhe generally didn’t give direct advice, only pointed them in a general direction.’

"Sis, you’re 30. You don’t have many chances left to be the one to make a move."

"Making a move won’t necessarily solve the problem, but at least you’ll find out what the problem was in the first place."

"Let me tell you something you’re not going to like to hear: when you’re 35 or 40 and you try to make a move on a guy, he’s going to be terrified."

[Hahaha, so savage!]

[So true. When an older woman makes the first move, it’s usually bad news.]

[Brother Zhang is spitting facts.]

[If you ask me, you have to take the initiative in love if you want to be happy.]

[It’s not that she has a problem making a move. It’s that she only makes a move on bad boys.]

"Okay, okay, thank you, Brother Zhang. I really get it this time."

"I hope you’re not lying to yourself."

This time, Zhang Zhe managed to hold back his laughter.

’The way this girl was inexplicably so formal and reserved during a matchmaking setup was a little funny, but not hard to understand. A lot of girls are brought up that way.’

’Plus, she wasn’t stubborn. She told little white lies, but it was still within an acceptable range. That’s why Zhang Zhe’s approach with her was primarily encouragement, supplemented with advice.’

After the woman signed off, Zhang Zhe answered a few questions from the chat.

"’Why would the guy agree to see her for a blind date when he knew she had just been with a bad boy?’"

"Because he’s okay with that kind of thing. It’s that simple."

"’The bros in the chat are saying it’s because her family is well-off and he’d be marrying up, but that’s not necessarily the case.’"

"When they first met, the woman was clearly keeping her options open. That’s a behavior you usually only see from very attractive women."

"’This woman’s build must be great. The fact that she can attract bad boys means you don’t have to worry about her sex appeal. The guy was willing to see her, so he was definitely into her looks.’"

[Has the chat found this girl’s photo yet?]

[Found her account: @Sister Dong Baiyu]

[The guy must have been mentally prepared for her past, which is why he never tried anything.]

[The guy seems smart. She’s obviously trying to "go straight," and if he’d made a move, he’d probably be stuck with her for good.]

The guy from the blind date, who even the expert commenters in the chat approved of, was certainly sharp. But at the end of the day, he just wasn’t letting his little head do the thinking for his big one.

When you’re meeting a woman from a blind date, it’s never a bad idea to keep yourself in check.